I think sometimes all we think about is the negative. If someone goes to a restaurant and has an awful experience they are more likely to share the bad experience with ten people as opposed to a good experience they would only share it with two people.
How can we be positive in such a negative world?
I had another therapy appointment today. We talked about how I was doing and I told her I wasn’t doing well. I don’t know why I’ve been feeling so negative but I have. Almost every thought I have is bad and negative. I’ve been letting the negative out way the positive. Therapy is not easy. It’s a lot of hard work. And it takes a lot of hard work to be happy. People have to work at their happiness.
Sometimes I get discouraged because it seems a lot easier for some people to be able to throw out the negative thoughts and feelings. Its a challenge for me to look at the bright side when I’m not in the right kind of mind, because of that I get discouraged very easily. There was this girl I knew back in high school. She always had a smile on her face despite what was going on. She was always happy. I want to be that kind of happy. I want to be a person that spreads cheer and positive thoughts in this negative world.
The thing about depression is it makes it harder for you to see the positive. You can be happy with depression. You just have to work at it a little harder. When I was at my happiest, I was doing things for myself and making time for myself. Being a mother now, it can be difficult to be able to have time for myself. But the thing is, I have to make time. If I don’t make time for myself then my mental health plummets and then I can’t be a good mother when I am depressed and unhappy.
Side note: If your a mom I understand its nearly impossible to make time for yourself especially when you feel like you have to take care of your family first. But here’s the thing, your children are happiest when they have a more positive, happier mom, and in order to be positive you need to make time for yourself and take care of yourself.
Challenge those negative thoughts. You have the power to change what kind of thoughts you have. Challenge the negative thoughts with positive ones. Be more positive.
My challenge to you is to say 3 positive things for every negative thought. I remember having dinner with a bunch of girls and someone said something they didn’t like about their body, and my friend Kassi told her to say 3 positive things about herself. It really helps. And remember to take time for yourself and do things that make you happy. I know its not easy, in fact I have failed at that this last couple weeks. But its so worth it.